I love this article.  It has given me so much insight in GOD leading you to your mate, not choosing him/her for you.   I am one of those Christians that believed that GOD chooses your mate for you, when in actuality, with all things, he gives us the will to choose life or death.  HE doesn’t even force us to love him.    But GOD will lead you to life, if  our eyes are focused on HIM.

My problem was that I allowed (my) flesh to encourage my choosing in the case of my ex-husband and the last relationship.  As I look back, my influence with these men had nothing to do with my growth in God.  My ex-husband wanted me to marry him because he had just found out that his father was not his biological so marrying me would fill the void.  We talked about marriage before, but it was all for selfish gain.  Wrong motive! We suffered from it the whole way through- If I didn’t satisfy his need in any way, he would leave and be with another woman.  We have two wonderful children that I raise solely without any help from him- but GOD is faithful in that HE gives me strength to endure.

I think with the last relationship, I was so yearning for a husband that I took what seemed attractive and nice.  Heck… he helped me with the kids from time to time, not much but I thought unbuckling seat belts and bringing them in the house was gold- HE didn’t do too much more.  I was not at all interested in whether GOD approved of this union.  I just wanted him so bad(ly).

Pretty much everything that he did and wanted was opposite of GOD’s word- for instance, wanting me to have his baby… without ever discussing marriage, let alone me not being sure if we were in a serious relationship.  He was demanding, critical of everything, and even told me that he has to be hard on me.  He even mentioned that I didn’t stroke his ego. I could believe that when I tried to satisfy is every request.   If I remember the scriptures on marriage, GOD does not command the husband to be hard on his wife.  He command(s) the husband to love his wife as himself and as Christ loves the church that he gave HIS life for it.  Hmmm!  I am so thankful for the word of GOD now.   

Yes, I believe that GOD does not choose your mate for you but will lead you to the right person for you if you are willing to hear and accept what HE is showing you.  I do ask of GOD for certain qualities in my mate, I do want him to be a man after GOD’s own heart (this would cover honesty, humbleness, loyalty, etc. all the fruits of the spirit- Galations 5:22) financially obedient and smart, tall, attractive to me, athletic and loves my children as his own.  If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. John 15:7 

I thank you again and will be watching your site for more great stuff about GOD!